Romance

Common Modern Dating Terms Explained

Benching

Benching is when you start dating someone you think is nice and who has potential, but you’re not crazy about them. You don’t know wether to keep dating them, or dump them and move on to the next one. 

Breadcrumbing

When the crush has no intentions of taking things further, but they like the attention. So they flirt here or there, send messages just to keep the person interested, knowing damn well they’re staying single.

Gaslighting

In the modern dating world, a person is manipulating someone by psychological means into questioning their sanity. In the modern dating world, this is when you are having a confidential text conversation with someone else while talking to another person, whether in real life or online.

Ghosting

When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice before hand. You will mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.

Cushioning

A dating technique where along with your main piece you also have several cushions, other people you’ll chat and flirt with to cushion the potential blow of your main break-up and not leave you alone.

Zombieing

It’s where someone you previously dated or were even in a relationship with, ghosted you, only to then resurface some time later, most likely in the form of some sort of social media interaction or an out of the blue text message. Usually the zombieing happens just when you’ve gotten over the hurt of having them ghost you in the first place. 

Haunting

In the modern dating world, this is when someone ghosts or breaks up with you but continues to watch all of your social media stories and posts to remind them that you still exist freely.

Kittenfishing

Making yourself seem way different than you actually are on online dating websites. Examples would be using photos from a long time ago, exaggerating your skills, talents, and hobbies.

Phishing

In the modern dating world, this is when you are having a confidential text conversation with someone else while talking to another person, whether in real life or online. In the modern dating world, this is when you are having a confidential text conversation with someone else while talking to another person, whether in real life or online. 

Sidebarring

In the modern dating world, this is when you are having a confidential text conversation with someone else while talking to another person, whether in real life or online. In the modern dating world, this occurs when an ex, or someone who previously ghosted you, resurfaces in your life again.

Stashing

Stashing is when you’re in a relationship with someone and you refuse to introduce them to your friends and family; mostly because you view the person as temporary, replaceable, and/or you’re an asshole.

Firedooring

A one sided relationship in which one person is usually being taken advantage of. A one sided relationship in which one person is usually being taken advantage of. 

Love Bombing

When someone comes back all of a sudden to shower you with over the top displays of affection, flirtation, etc. They have been hot and cold with you over and over, in your life one minute and then ghosting you the next without warning. This can be a manipulative, narcissist tactic; used to see if they still have a hold on you. Makes you disposable to their discretion when they’re bored.

Eclipsing

It is a form of psychological abuse. In the modern dating world, a person is manipulating someone. This involves expressing an excessive amount of affection at the very beginning of a relationship, only to lose interest once you’ve finally got them right where you want them. 

Caspering

The art of ghosting someone in a friendly way. When you don’t have the heart to full on ghost them, so you start cutting and reducing all interactions until they take the hint and give up. 

Orbiting

When someone who won’t speak to you otherwise still watches every snap on your social media or likes your posts. Usually someone who has ghosted you, but not always. Basically they’re lingering in your life despite refusing to be an active part in it in any other capacity.

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